Thanks everyone for your thoughts and words of encouragement regarding my job situation. It helps that so many of you have walked this road and came out OK.
It has been a tough road for me since all of this happened. The job situation, the blowout with my in-laws at Christmas and the death of my great uncle has resulted in a deep depression that I just can't seem to shake. Taken separately, these issue would not bother me so much. But, these issues happened in a short period of time, one after another, without any time to work through each issue before a new one surfaced.
Husband and my doctor suggested that I get some help to work some of these things out. It's hard because I am quite the guarded person. I don't open up very easily, not even on my blog. But, I think I need some help getting through all of this. So, I started seeing a psychologist to work out some of these issues.
Hopefully, I will mend.
About Me
- Seeking Solace
- I am a college professor who is fumbling through the chaos of academia, rheumatoid arthritis, working on my PhD and just being a 40 something woman. I used to be a lawyer, which made me a snarky little person. I have a wonderful Husband and a German Shepherd named Junior. They help keep me sane.
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11 comments:
You will definitely mend. I hope that you find seeing the psychologist useful. They are used to dealing with quite private and guarded people, so s/he should totally understand where you're coming from.
Hugs...If there's ever anything I can do, please just email me.
I am right there with you. I completely get how accumulating difficulties can completely overwhelm one's coping skills.
I've been seeing a shrink too -- but it has been difficult for two reasons: 1) she has been on vacation or sick for several sessions, making it hard to get continuity or create a relationship; and 2) she has been directing the sessions and i often leave not feeling like I could talk about what I needed to. But, she is the only one I found who would work with me financially.
Oddly, it has not been my experience that therapists are used to dealing with private and guarded people - in fact, a lot of people I interview seem to find that overly problematic - which is really quite surprising to me. I mean, how odd that they just expect everyone to be open and vulnerable with them right from the get go.
I hope you find it useful - for me, it at least provides some structure and a reason to get out of bed and bathe each week. I try too to leave early and take my laptop to a tea shop nearby to get some work done.
Everyone goes through these rough patches, good for you for knowing your limits and getting help! Hugs to you!
I think shrinkykitten brought up a really good point about seeing a psychologist - mainly, finding the right one. It is all about the rapport, and don't waste your time or money on one that isn't creating a open and comfortable environment or doesn't challenge you a bit.
I hope that you find your way. I am rooting for you!
I hope you'll sort things out. When everything happens at the same time it's always hard to cope.
i have seen a psych as well for depression and though everything is bad now, just know that things will get better for you. you will mend.
take care.
I think seeing a therapist is the ultimate luxury. Where else can you go and just dump out everything and have that person take YOUR side? I hope your psychologist will be helpful and I am confident you will find your strength again. Who could blame you for being depressed? Lots of crappy stuff has been happening in your world! I send hugs and good thoughts. A prayer or two is thrown in for good measure. ;)
I applaud you for seeking assistance. A lot of times the most difficult part is seeking help. You've crossed that hurdle already and I foresee mending in your future.
Thinking of you.
I am so sorry that you are going through such a tough time. Any one of these events would be hard to take, so encountering them all together would be overwhelming. Know that we are with you!
I am proud of you for taking the risk of seeking therapy. It is hard to find the right therapist, and I hope you get the support you need... and you can always talk with us whenever you need to! We'll be here!
I hope the psychologist works out for you! I used to be very guarded, but when I started therapy during my divorce somehow everything started spilling out *and* I learned to be much more open with the people in my life.
It's nice to have that safe person to talk to, who isn't attached to the rest of life and its consequences.
-profgrrrrl
I'm glad you are getting the help you need. You've had some of the most stressful situations possible, getting some help for the resulting depression is a great idea!
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